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Do hymens really prove whether someone’s a virgin?



Someone asked us:

So what’s the truth about hymens being an accurate guarantor of virginity? 

Great question, and one that seems to cause some unnecessary stress for a lot of people.

Let’s talk about hymens first. The hymen is a thin, fleshy tissue that stretches across part of the opening of the vagina. It’s inside your body so you may not be able to see it. Stretching the hymen open for the first time can cause pain or bleeding, but not everyone will experience this. Hymens, like most body parts, come in all shapes and sizes – some have a lot, some have barely any hymen at all. The more hymenal tissue there is, the more likely it is that pain or bleeding will happen the first time it’s stretched.

Some people think you’re no longer a virgin if your hymen has been stretched open, because vaginal (penis-in-vagina) sex is one of the ways this can happen…but it’s not the only way. Hymens can be stretched by playing certain sports, inserting something into the vagina (like a tampon or finger), or even riding a bicycle. And many people are born with so little hymenal tissue that it may seem like they don’t have a hymen at all. So hymens really have nothing to do with virginity

Most people agree that virgin = someone who’s never had sex. But the tricky thing is, sex means different things to different people. For some, only penis-in-vagina sex “counts,” but others think vaginal sex, oral sex, and anal sex are equally legitimate ways to lose your virginity. Lots of folks with active sex lives never have vaginal sex. And many people continue to identify as virgins after surviving sexual assault (while others do not). 

The bottom line about virginity: it’s up to you. You can define virginity however you like. Or you can choose to ignore the label altogether. Whatever your definition, virginity (or lack thereof) doesn’t define you. And it doesn’t define anyone else either. But always remember: if you’re having any kind of sex — oral, anal, or vaginal — it’s important to protect yourself from unintended pregnancy and/or STDs.

-Kellie at Planned Parenthood


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